Often helping someone is a disguise for hurting someone. The same is true on the other side. Often hurting someone is a disguise for helping someone. As friends, lovers, parents or strangers how do we know what the difference is between the two?
When someone we love is in need of help, we often rush to help them. The have a financial problem and we bail them out with money. Our brother gets in a bad relationship and the entire family tries to lift him up. Aa friend is struggling with alcoholism and is broke so we buy them a beer. These are all ways that we help someone but really hurt them.
On the other side, we tell a friend that we can no longer be around them because their drug use has gotten worse. We tell a family member that we can’t help them financially anymore. We an acquaintance the truth of how their harsh words makes them feel. These are all ways that can hurt someone but in the long run help them at the same time.
‘Rock bottom’ is one of those phrases that has haunted me for a long time. What does rock bottom look like when you are done being someone’s employee when you really are their son? What does rock bottom look like when you have been used up by so many people that you have nothing left for yourself? What is rock bottom, period?
Im not sure if it is just the yogic teachings or my current state of mind right now. However, it feels like I am at rock bottom. I’m optimistic about this because rock bottom to me means that there is no where to go but up. It means I can create something out of nothing without the help of anyone else. This means that I own my life and its outcome.